Another Ride with my Uncle

 

So last week I was on another ride with my uncle to his office (you may need to surf through my blog to read the first one). Immediately we entered the car he had turned on the music and started dancing to it (he obviously thinks of himself as the Michael Jackson of our time but trust me, he is not 🙈🙈) and seeing that he was enjoying himself I quickly picked up my phone and went straight to Instagram and then to my Whatsapp. A typical thing for my generation to do. 

Few minutes later he had turned down the volume of the music and asked if I was writing. I knew he was  referring to my blog and in that instance I wished I was actually writing something on my blog because that would have been a way better answer than "no, I'm just chatting online". He sighed and I could literally hear disappointment in his sigh and as normal with me, I managed to laugh it out. "How can two people be in the same place and not talk to each about stuff but instead focus on their phones?" He asked and went further to say "it baffles me and what baffles me more is that people don't see how this is affecting relationships,especially marriages" well I was smiling the whole time because I had written something on this before when I lost a friend who was sick and I didn't know he was sick because I had used his life on the Internet to assume he was doing well. He was not doing well at all and it took his death to make me realize that. So I finally said to my uncle "I get what you mean and it affects all relationships the same." I went ahead to tell him about my late friend and how his death made me realize the harm media was causing real friendships.

We continued to share experiences and talk more on the boldness and the overall false happy and perfect life we have on the social. The conversation ended when we got to the office but I was however left in my thought. A lot of people have judged my life to be perfect base on what they see on the media. I don't blame them because I too think I know people base on what they post on the Internet. My life is not near perfect. I have demons I'm fighting to stay stable and sane but you (my friends)wouldn't know that now,would you?

Don't spend your life living on social media telling yourself that you have friends there because very soon you will realize that there is no friend for you on those apps that you don't already have for real around you. Create room for real relationships. Listen to the friends around you and talk to them about you. Build true friendship that is not based on assumptions,one where you can actually share real hugs,kisses and thoughts.

How sad will it be for one to wake up one day and find no one around because one spent all the time with unreal people. We are all guilty of this or at least most of us are. If you can't manage a large circle then get a small circle of friends that you can truly be there for. 

Social media is my best thing,so I am not saying it's bad. Chat all you want when you are alone but give people the chance to really be with you and talk with you when you are together. They are more important in your life than you know. Let's make the effort to do better for those around us because at the end they are all we really have.  

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